The teen years arrive and many parents look back and now think the toddler, tike and even tween years were just a stroll in the park compared to what they are experiencing now. Why?  Here are 5 reasons why your teen may be rebelling. First, they are struggling for identity. Your teen is trying to answer the question, “Who am I?” They’re also seeking validation in who they are as a person, not in their performance....

My kids have said to me, “Dad, everybody cheats at school!”  Well, it may not be everybody, but a recent survey says three out of four high school students admitted to cheating on an exam at least once in the past year. Their reason? They say that it’s ok to cheat if you need to make a good grade…but it's not. Tell your children why cheating is wrong. First, cheating is stealing…and that’s against the law. ...

Last night, as I stood at the kitchen sink, my son tried to push me aside, without saying a word.  Well, rather than just correct him, my wife and I decided to employ a little role-play.  As I stood at the sink again, she played the role of my son and said, “Dad, will you please excuse me?  I’d like to wash my hands.”  I said, “Sure, come on in.” and then moved out of the way.  You see, telling our kids how to do...

Do you know the power of silence?  I’m Mark Merrill with today’s Family Minute.  Sometimes we think that repeating ourselves over and over again in an angry, raised voice is the only way to get our children to obey.  I’m definitely guilty of that.  But here is a better way… Look your child in the eye.  Say it once in a calm, firm voice, and then be silent.  For example, you say, “Matthew, please brush your teeth...

To understand how to relate to your stepchild you need to put yourself in their shoes.  How would you feel if your parents had split up?  How would you feel if your mom or dad had re-married?  And how would you feel if you now had somebody new telling you what to do?   Getting a stepparent can be a big transition for a child.  So when they misbehave or aren’t exactly nice to you—before you lose your temper or take...

I was playing the simulated military game, Call of Duty: Modern Warfare 2 with my teenage son… and I’m really bad at it.  The mission is to kill the bad guys or be killed.  In real life, what do you do when someone takes aim at you and starts to fire?  Fire back, right?  Well, that’s our instinct, but our call of duty is to receive the “friendly fire,” and not pull the verbal trigger… even though everything in us...

Playing favorites with your children is a dangerous game. Preferring one child over another can destroy family unity… and cause lasting emotional damage for the “unfavored” child.  Maybe one daughter is prettier than her awkward sister; one son excels at academics or sports, while his brother struggles with grades, is more withdrawn, just plain ‘difficult’. It may feel natural to lavish attention on an exceptional...