We’ve all seen it in the movies…the sweet, innocent daughter falls for the greasy-haired, rebel boy that the parents can’t stand.  Maybe that’s extreme, but it’s still very common for parents to find their older teens and adult children pursuing relationships they don’t approve of.  So here are 4 ways to direct your child with wisdom.  First, begin with love.  Start the conversation with love by sharing how you love them unconditionally and have their best interests at heart.  Second, address the issue, don’t attack the person. Your child will shut down if you start by attacking their friend, boyfriend or girlfriend.  Here are more of my thoughts on How to Give Your Teenager Dating Advice When You Disapprove.