If so, I’ve got some great ways to do it. First, always lecture and never listen. Don’t think about what they are thinking or feeling, just think about what you want to say to your child and let it rip. When your child tries to respond, cut him off.  Second, discipline when you’re angry. Be as harsh as you can and yell as loud as you can. Third, use words that tear down. Sarcastic, unsupportive, and disrespectful words will do this. And comparing words like, “Why can’t you be more like your brother” will do the trick as well. For more on this topic on my blog go to MarkMerrill.com.