First, deal with those intense emotions by calmly removing your child from the situation and sending him to his room to think about it…the fewer words you use to do this, the better. Second, when you sense he is ready, ask your child to write down what he’s angry about and why he’s angry…writing it down works because it activates reflective thinking in a child.  After the note is written, discuss it with your child, and talk about how he can deal with the situation differently the next time.  Sure, he’ll have an angry outburst again…but eventually he’ll learn an important lesson on how to deal with his anger.  Here are 8 steps to dealing with anger in children to help you in this process.