Imagine…no rules, no boundaries on the basketball court.  Players can run wherever they want…and there’s never a foul.  Well, you get the picture…it would be pure chaos.  You can’t have a game without boundaries, and you can’t have a sane home without going through these 3 phases of creating boundaries for your kids.  And those boundaries for your children must be decided by you in advance and shared with your children in advance.  The older your kids get, the more input they should have on how those lines are drawn.  Then, the boundaries must be consistently enforced by you, and backed up by consequences that match the offense.