I was having some problems with my TV. The cable technician told me I just needed to reboot the box to clear the line.  Guess what? It worked!  Well, if you’ve been married for any length of time, you’ve probably been hurt by your spouse. If hurts aren’t dealt with and truly forgiven, bitterness can harden your heart to the point where you just don’t like your mate anymore.  Past hurts and disappointments tend to resurface in an argument.  So, what do you do?  Reboot!  Clear the line.  Forgive each other and promise that the old hurts won’t be brought up again. Be sure to avoid these 4 key patterns that destroy oneness in marriage.  And try these marriage conversation starters to strengthen your relationship.