We’ve all said it to our spouse before, “If you would just do this, then I would do that.” Basically what we are saying is “I’m not going to do something you want until I get what I want.” For example, maybe your spouse has said, “If you’d pick up your clothes off the floor, then I would clean more.”  Or, “If you would just take me out more, then I’d make love with you more.” Or, “If you would take me somewhere fun, then I’d spend more time with you.” Here are some practical truths to help break the “If, Then” Marriage Cycle.