During our 25 years of marriage, I’ve said a few things to Susan that didn’t make her happy. Maybe you’ve said a few things that didn’t please your wife either. So what are some of those things you should not say to your wife? Here are a few…"Calm down. Relax!” This can come across as belittling of their emotional stress. Another is “What were you thinking?” When that’s said, you’re basically saying “that was a dumb decision.” Another is “What did you do all day?” Saying that shows no appreciation for what she does inside and outside the home…especially compared to what we do. Here is a list of 9 Things You Should Never Say to Your Wife. Remember, your Family First.