Mood killers don’t just ruin a moment, they hurt a marriage if they become ongoing patterns of behavior. For example, avoid what I call “The only thing you want” mood killer. This can hurt a marriage if your spouse thinks you’re only showing an interest in them because you want something in return. Look for opportunities to remind your spouse that you find her interesting and enjoy her company, with no strings attached. The mood will also vanish with “The untamed tongue” mood killer. Thoughtless, critical words said in anger or frustration can quickly destroy any expectation for intimacy. Read all 4 mood killers and how to avoid them.