Maybe you've had a bad day at the office, or you're stressed about the bills. You're grouchy, you're ready to unload, and you let the words fly. You take out your frustration on your mate hoping they'll take the bait. Well, there's a better way to express frustration. When you see your spouse, just say, "I'm cranky." They'll ask why, and that's when you get to let it all out—but more like a report instead of an attack. Your mate can be the comforter and the one who cheers you up. You'll still get to vent, but without the damaging consequences of a full-blown fight. Join me on my blog to read more about how to properly fight with your spouse. When conflicts do arise, here are 8 secrets to conflict resolution.