If you want to evaluate your marriage, the best way is to talk to the one person that knows your marriage as well, or better than, you do…your spouse. So here are 2 questions you can ask your spouse to assess your relationship. First ask, “How can I be better spouse to you?” Ask for practical examples. Second, ask, “Have I seemed oblivious to anything important going on in the family?” If you have missed activities or events, apologize to your spouse or child for disappointing them. The key: Listen without being defensive and respond with honesty. Here is a complete list of questions to ask your spouse in order to evaluate your relationship.