Words matter.  I choose them carefully and look for the right words for the situation. But I’ve learned there’s a fine line between being curt and courteous. How we say the words is as important as what we say.  There are three things we need to remember about communicating with our spouse that make all the difference.  First, the way we use our body can change an innocent comment into the start of something bad.  Arms folded?  Eyes rolling?  Lack of eye contact?  Clenched jaw?  Smirky smile?  These communicate the wrong thing and should be avoided.  Here are more tips to find out if you are Being Curt or Courteous with Your Spouse.