Recently, my wife, Susan and I had one of those conflicts where we started talking about one thing, but ended up listing everything that we sometimes find irritating about each other.  All of it could have been avoided if we just remembered some important facts. First, we are equal opportunity agitators.  We both do things that annoy each other, and we need to step back and look at ourselves first. Second, it’s not all about me. A husband and wife should seek to serve the other. To do what’s best for the other.  Love is all about giving to your spouse. For more on what to do when your spouse irritates you, check out my blog at MarkMerrill.com.